I feel seen 😭 chin hairs and mustache it’s definitely a struggle. Pcos stays dominating my life but it is well. Ppl are so insensitive especially guys 😞
I also have tweezers everywhere. My purse, bag, mums car, emergency tweezers, traveling tweezers. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do 😂. I’m just scared to dermaplane
💜💜 At the end of the day there’s no one way of femininity. Things like categorizing women and imposing a certain standard on how they should look and act. Lord help us all, so sick of it.
So sickening. but I’m glad that we’re starting to be conscious of the fact that we don’t have to adhere to whatever standards are imposed on us. We get to choose. Our bodies, our choice.
Omg this was so beautifully written! I find it so crazy that the first thing to come out of 'Jameel's' mouth was, "Who will marry you?" because as we all know, that's all girls are here for. I had a similar experience, (I don't have chin hair, but knuckle hair) and a boy in secondary school constantly teased me for it and told no boy would kiss my hand because they'd be too disgusted by it and I spent so much time worrying. It's great that you've come to the point of acceptance and knowledge that hirsutism doesn't make you less of a woman. (I'm also so excited to find a fellow Nigerian girlie here, btw).
Had a similar experience on the last day of school in my last year in high school my ex bestfriend was trying to help button my shirt and saw my chest and goes ’’ewwwwww you have hair on your chest’’ ,’’why are you so hairy,boys don't like girl's with hair on their body’’ I didn't even know how to react and laughed it off it stayed with me for long till I realised i've never cared about how boys saw me so it shouldn't bother me
She had always said stuff about my body she'd say stuff like......
’’if you were dark skinned you'd be ugly’’ or how my leg hair made me look like a boy she'd hold my hand and start talking about how small her hands were or she'd say ’’if someone saw me from far they'd think I had a big arse’’
When we'd be in the hostel dressing up she'd start something like
’’Now if they leave you you're fine’’
Funny thing I was the one constantly sucking up to her i even cried one time she said she didn't want to be friends with me like I'd legit burst into tears in random places
We aren't friends anymore tho ended it early this year march precisely
Really appreciate this, I feel seen, I have accepted this as a part of me. I have days where it still gets me down but I’m really thankful no guy I’ve ever dated has made a big deal about it and as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to live with it. I have full on chin hair I have to shave everyday. It ain’t fun but I’m not the only one.
God its so relatable the feeling of obsessing over facial hair and having to shave at least 2 times a week makes me feel so ugly and strangely I never felt a disgust towards it I was even proud for the fact I had a bigger moustace than boys in elementary school 💀but it's sad how other peoples opinion and mocking has destroyed my self perception now in middle school.
oh you poor thing 🥺 I’m so sorry. People are horrible. but one thing I’ll tell you is, it’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Just read the comments here, read people’s stories. There are so many beautiful, confident and amazing women out there just like you. There’s so much joy and love and peace that comes with not caring what people think about you. Your existence alone is defiance to cultural norms so own it! Be a rebel! Be a witch! Be you!
Yesterday I learned the highest level of ancient Gaelic poets wore “a cloak of crimson-colored bird feathers and carried a wand,” so yeah a poet-witch is high status keep at it 😄
I really loved this piece... I laughed out loud at the "yanked it out" part because that happened with me. Although I wasn't angry I was just surprised the chin hair came out earlier than I expected. My mum had always plucked hers. They're single strands in different points on her face and neck. I really hoped to heavens I don't get them and I did.
It’s such a treat to discover such a well written piece 🥹 your words just flow and touch your readers soul. What an amazing piece on self acceptance. I’ve grown up with many physical traits that convention considers unattractive, and I also agree that true acceptance is the only way out of the claws that these insecurities have on our little hearts :) Thank you for sharing your talents with readers like us who needed to hear these words!!
Last month i saw for the first time that i have chin hair and i was cursing the universe. Then my mom told me its normal, "your aunts grew out chin hair in the same age as you!" . Even though i was angry i got the "bad genes", knowing this was
usual in my family kinda made me feel better about it. Maybe all the women in our family are witches, who knows.
This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing, your vulnerability is very much appreciated 💜 It's already so sad people believe those who aren't represented by the dominant beauty standard unworthy of love, but it's even more telling that they see marriage as the ultimate representation of that worthiness. botched value systems 😭
I feel seen 😭 chin hairs and mustache it’s definitely a struggle. Pcos stays dominating my life but it is well. Ppl are so insensitive especially guys 😞
I know right? Most of them have the emotion capacity of a spoon😭🤦🏽♀️
I also have tweezers everywhere. My purse, bag, mums car, emergency tweezers, traveling tweezers. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do 😂. I’m just scared to dermaplane
yo, I’m scared to death! It looks so complicated. depilatory creams burn and shaving leaves bumps. It feels impossible most days, honestly
Yesss😭 pata pata the safest way is probably laser
Yup! It’s expensive tho
Can never forget the boy that told me I sound like a man because of my deep voice 😭. Words really do hold weight
yes, they do! I’m so sorry you went through that.
💜💜 At the end of the day there’s no one way of femininity. Things like categorizing women and imposing a certain standard on how they should look and act. Lord help us all, so sick of it.
So sickening. but I’m glad that we’re starting to be conscious of the fact that we don’t have to adhere to whatever standards are imposed on us. We get to choose. Our bodies, our choice.
you’re so welcome! that’s for reading!
Omg this was so beautifully written! I find it so crazy that the first thing to come out of 'Jameel's' mouth was, "Who will marry you?" because as we all know, that's all girls are here for. I had a similar experience, (I don't have chin hair, but knuckle hair) and a boy in secondary school constantly teased me for it and told no boy would kiss my hand because they'd be too disgusted by it and I spent so much time worrying. It's great that you've come to the point of acceptance and knowledge that hirsutism doesn't make you less of a woman. (I'm also so excited to find a fellow Nigerian girlie here, btw).
Hi Fatimah. It’s so nice to meet you too! and yes, boys can be especially cruel! Thank God for exposure and growth tbh.
If i had 1k for all the"you get moustache" ive received i'd be rich by now
hahaha
Had a similar experience on the last day of school in my last year in high school my ex bestfriend was trying to help button my shirt and saw my chest and goes ’’ewwwwww you have hair on your chest’’ ,’’why are you so hairy,boys don't like girl's with hair on their body’’ I didn't even know how to react and laughed it off it stayed with me for long till I realised i've never cared about how boys saw me so it shouldn't bother me
She had always said stuff about my body she'd say stuff like......
’’if you were dark skinned you'd be ugly’’ or how my leg hair made me look like a boy she'd hold my hand and start talking about how small her hands were or she'd say ’’if someone saw me from far they'd think I had a big arse’’
When we'd be in the hostel dressing up she'd start something like
’’Now if they leave you you're fine’’
Funny thing I was the one constantly sucking up to her i even cried one time she said she didn't want to be friends with me like I'd legit burst into tears in random places
We aren't friends anymore tho ended it early this year march precisely
3 and a half years of friendship 😭😭😂
God, what a ride. I’m pretty sure she was just projecting her insecurities onto you. I’m so glad you got out of that situation😊❤️
I loved this! Will definitely feature this on my next post … thank you!!!!!!
I’d be honored!
Really appreciate this, I feel seen, I have accepted this as a part of me. I have days where it still gets me down but I’m really thankful no guy I’ve ever dated has made a big deal about it and as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to live with it. I have full on chin hair I have to shave everyday. It ain’t fun but I’m not the only one.
Hi Jade. I’m so proud of you and yes! You’re definitely not the only one!
God its so relatable the feeling of obsessing over facial hair and having to shave at least 2 times a week makes me feel so ugly and strangely I never felt a disgust towards it I was even proud for the fact I had a bigger moustace than boys in elementary school 💀but it's sad how other peoples opinion and mocking has destroyed my self perception now in middle school.
-from a chin haired witch
oh you poor thing 🥺 I’m so sorry. People are horrible. but one thing I’ll tell you is, it’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Just read the comments here, read people’s stories. There are so many beautiful, confident and amazing women out there just like you. There’s so much joy and love and peace that comes with not caring what people think about you. Your existence alone is defiance to cultural norms so own it! Be a rebel! Be a witch! Be you!
Yesterday I learned the highest level of ancient Gaelic poets wore “a cloak of crimson-colored bird feathers and carried a wand,” so yeah a poet-witch is high status keep at it 😄
I really loved this piece... I laughed out loud at the "yanked it out" part because that happened with me. Although I wasn't angry I was just surprised the chin hair came out earlier than I expected. My mum had always plucked hers. They're single strands in different points on her face and neck. I really hoped to heavens I don't get them and I did.
Loved this read! Let's build a bearded witches coven.
that would be sooo fun!
It’s such a treat to discover such a well written piece 🥹 your words just flow and touch your readers soul. What an amazing piece on self acceptance. I’ve grown up with many physical traits that convention considers unattractive, and I also agree that true acceptance is the only way out of the claws that these insecurities have on our little hearts :) Thank you for sharing your talents with readers like us who needed to hear these words!!
Last month i saw for the first time that i have chin hair and i was cursing the universe. Then my mom told me its normal, "your aunts grew out chin hair in the same age as you!" . Even though i was angry i got the "bad genes", knowing this was
usual in my family kinda made me feel better about it. Maybe all the women in our family are witches, who knows.
and wouldn’t that be something!
i love this and feel seen on so many levels! here for reclaiming our innate witchyness
Preach!
seen
This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing, your vulnerability is very much appreciated 💜 It's already so sad people believe those who aren't represented by the dominant beauty standard unworthy of love, but it's even more telling that they see marriage as the ultimate representation of that worthiness. botched value systems 😭
Exactly! Thank you so much for reading!